How I met your mother

Kid’s, this is the story of “How I met your mother.”

It was a Friday, and Groundhog’s day in 2001. I spent most of the day in Chicago for work. There was something special in the air. I now know what it was. Traveling in my cab to airport to catch a 5p Flight to Minneapolis I remember having a fun conversation with my best childhood friend, who was gathering with others at my house to greet me. Since it was my birthday weekend, we were going to go out on the town to celebrate. Most of us were single, so that adds another element of excitement to the mix.

I showed up at my house, 20 minutes North of the airport and to my surprise were 5 of my best buddies, big smiles and all, ready to get the evening started and get downtown. I showered, dressed and we were on our way.

Something was still in the air. A 70’s cover band, “Boogie Wonderland” was playing at one of my favorite music venues, “The FineLine” on 1st Avenue in downtown Minneapolis. I remember going to the 2nd floor balcony with the boyz and meeting a few more friends as well. We had about 10 boyz in our group that evening, having a few cocktails, doing whatever it is that boyz do on a Friday night.

I’ve never been afraid, or had a problem with approaching the ladies. I’m sure I’ve made a fool of myself a time or two. I saw 3 nice looking ladies dancing to beat the band near the railing on the 2nd floor. I decided to walk over. I asked the ladies, “Does anyone dance.” One of the ladies, Michelle, grabs her friend, Jessie, and throws her at me. In slow motion, something special “WAS” happening… Jessie launches forward, and about ready to do a face-plant from Michelle’s force, I lunge forward and save her from hitting the floor, and a lifelong of unpleasant dentist visits. We exchanged small talk, re-taught her how to jitterbug and the rest is history and none of your business.

At the end of the evening, the most beautiful woman in the world in slick red pants was giving me her business card. Talk about the use of technology, I emailed her the next Tuesday and mentioned how much of a pleasure it was to meet her. We went out that Friday night and small boutique restaurant, where I later proposed to her, exactly 1 year from the day I met her – Groundhog Day.

What I didn’t know until years later is that they had seen us group of boyz earlier in the evening. Jessie had also noticed me. We laugh about this story today. Yes, it was the fall that sealed the deal in my mind, but really what sealed the deal was having good friends around us. Had our friends not been able to visit and get along that evening, we would not have sealed any deals, nor exchanges of business cards. We were brought together for a reason – through our friends.

So Kid’s, always surround yourself with good people, good friends and you’ll be just fine. And, if a true friend throws you someday, have faith that he/she may be doing it for a reason, and somebody may catch you.

First Published on: July 27, 2008

Amy Meyer Story

Where to begin….what story to tell…there are so many! So I’ll share the first time I came into contact with the acronym EHFAR. It was January 13, 1999 and a big snow storm had hit the twin cities area on the first day of my first job after college with Lutheran Brotherhood (now Thrivent Financial). I lived with my sister (who also worked for LB) and we were car pooling together. We just couldn’t get moving any faster in the slow traffic so I was late to my first day of training with approx 12-15 other new people. In I walk, late and everyone turns to look at me…how embarrassing!! I sit and begin listening, learning, and meeting new friends. One of which consisted of Justin Pickar. As the day grew on and the training turned into weeks of being with the same people I learned more about the EHFAR philosophy. A philosophy I completed understood and agreed with in my own life. The year 1999 was one big EHFAR experience and here are some small stories of how EHFAR affected me…

1. First department/job with LB was horrible. I found out on my birthday that I was being placed into a department I least wanted. But I took it as a learning experience. I embraced it, gave it my best and made it through the year where I could begin applying for other areas in the company to move up. I never gave up and after 8 years with the company I was truly happy with the work I had given to the organization.

2. Embracing my health and body. I had been a competitive swimmer in college but it wasn’t until 1999 that I began working out for me and my own health. I began running 5K’s and 8K’s for fun. My body was in its best shape of life to that point because when you put your heart and mind to improving something for yourself, it makes life so much more fun. Later I began spinning classes at Lifetime and truly loved life.

3. Loving myself. I was single and had been through a previous long distance relationship so I took the year 1999 to begin loving myself for who I was. I discovered that I needed to love myself before I could love another person. I climbed mountains in Jackson Hole, I went white water rafting in Yellowstone, and I had a blast with my friends really focusing on the good in life and people. It was December 28th, 1999 and I had really come to terms with myself and that I was going to let the world happen, and I was along for the ride. Well, 3 days later on December 31st, I went to a New Years eve party with 3 girlfriends. It was that night that I met my husband. My first memory of him was in the hot tub but it wasn’t until hours later (3AM) that we began talking, and talking, and talking. He asked me out and the rest is history. We now have been married for 5+ years and we have 2 beautiful daughters together. I thank GOD for giving me the courage to believe in myself so I could find my own Justin!

These are just some samples of how EHFAR affected my life beginning all in the year 1999. Amy

First Published on: November 15, 2007

Think “Outside the Box”

“As many of you know, I believe one has to think “outside the box” and to be different.  Not solely to be different, but to be different with purpose.  Success is not for the majority, if it were, everyone would be successful.” Noel Rahn, Businessman

  • Wherever I see people doing something the way it’s always been done, the way its ‘supposed’ to be done…that’s just a big red flag to me to go look somewhere else.”  Mark Cuban, executive
  •  “Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.”  Cecil Beaton, photographer

Welcome to EHFAR®

Share your EHFAR® story(s) and relate with others at EHFAR® Blog. Whether someone (or something) came into your life for a reason at a certain time or you’ve found miraculous strength from +Energy, we invite you to share it. +Energy can be shared in the form of quotes, books, art, music and not limited to form of expression.

As mentioned in the EHFAR® Definition, most who believe “Everything Happens For A Reason” first become aware of the philosophy through:

  • Someone coming into your life for a reason at a certain time
  • Something at a time that seemed horrible, painful and unfair
  • Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, sheer stupidity
  • A conversation with someone you’ve never talked to before
  • Success and/or downfall(s)
  • Hurt, betrayal or a broken heart
  • Loss of a loved-one
  • Love
  • Awareness, and appreciating every moment
  • Self-Doubt

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1. Register Online or if you’re already registered go to Login.
2. On your personal dashboard, go to “Write” then “Write Post”.
3. Title your post and add content below.
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Purpose Driven Life

I too thought this little article was worth the read.

You will enjoy the new insights that Rick Warren has, with his wife now having cancer and him having “wealth” from the book sales. This is an absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren, “Purpose Driven Life ” author and pastor of Saddleback Church in California. In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren, Rick said:  People ask me, What is the purpose of life? And I respond: In a nutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were made to last forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven. 

One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body- but not the end of me. I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions of years in eternity. This is the warm-up act – the dress rehearsal. God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity.

We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life isn’t going to make sense. Life is a series of problems: Either you are in one now, you’re just coming out of one, or you’re getting ready to go into another one. The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort. God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.  We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that’s not the goal of life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

This past year has been the greatest year of my life but also the toughest, with my wife, Kay, getting cancer. I used to think that life was hills and valleys – you go through a dark time, then you go to the mountaintop, back and forth. I don’t believe that anymore.  Rather than life being hills and valleys, I believe that it’s kind of like two rails on a railroad track, and at all times you have something  good and something bad in your life.

No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on. And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for. You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on your problems. If you focus on your problems, you’re going into self-centeredness,” which is my problem, my issues, my pain.” But one of the easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and others.

We discovered quickly that in spite of the prayers of hundreds of thousands of people, God was not going to heal Kay or make it easy for her.  It has been very difficult for her, and yet God has strengthened her character, given her a ministry of helping other people, given her a testimony, drawn her closer to Him and to people.

You have to learn to deal with both the good and the bad of life. Actually, sometimes learning to deal with the good is harder. For instance, this past year, all of a sudden, when the book sold 15 million copies, it made me instantly very wealthy. It also brought a lot of notoriety that I had never had to deal with before. I don’t think God gives you money or notoriety for your own ego or for you to live a life of ease.

So I began to ask God what He wanted me to do with this money, notoriety and influence. He gave me two different passages that helped me decide what to do, II Corinthians 9 and Psalm 72.

First, in spite of all the money coming in, we would not change our lifestyle one bit. We made no major purchases. Second, about midway through last year, I stopped taking a salary from the church. Third, we set up foundations to fund an initiative we call The Peace Plan to plant churches, equip leaders, assist the poor , care for the sick, and educate the next generation. Fourth, I added up all that the church had paid me in the 24 years since I started the church, and I gave it all back. It was liberating to be able to serve God for free.

We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions? Popularity? Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Or am I going to be driven by God’s purposes (for my life)?

When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God, if I don’t get anything else done today, I want to know You more and love You better. God didn’t put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do list. He’s more interested in what I am than what I do. That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.

Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
Every moment, THANK GOD.

Thanks Jimmy for forwarding this to me…

Obstacles & Spirit

“Obstacles are challenges for winners and excuses for losers.”
-Gentlehands by M.E. Kerr

“It is a matter of spirit, not strength. It is a matter of doing your best each little moment. There’s never a break. You must have desire, a very intense desire to keep going.”
-Janet Guthrie

Thanks Rob A.

It Couldn’t Be Done

Somebody said that it couldn’t be done. But he with a chuckle replied that “maybe it couldn’t”, but he would be one who wouldn’t say so till he’d tried. So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin on his face. If he worried he hit it. He started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it.

Somebody scoffed: “Oh you’ll never do that; at least no one ever has done it”; but he took off his coat and he took off his hat, and the firt thing we knew he’d begun it. With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin, without any doubting or quiddit, he started to sing as he tackled the thing that couldn’t be done, and he did it.

There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done. There are thousands to prophesy failure. There are thousands to point out to you, one by one, the dangers that wait to assail you. But just buckle in with a bit of a grin. Just take off your coat and go to it. Just start to sing as you tackle the thing that “Cannot be done”, and you’ll do it.

– Edgar A. Guest